'Sex to pass exams' lecturer arrested

KUALA LUMPUR - Malaysian authorities have arrested a lecturer who is accused of demanding sex and money from students in return for giving them pass grades in exams, a newspaper report said Thursday.

The unnamed university lecturer from Selangor state, described as a foreigner in his 40s, was arrested after a 24-year-old student lodged a complaint to the Malaysian Anti-Corruption Commission (MACC), the Star newspaper quoted investigation head Mohamad Shukri Abdull as saying.

MACC officials could not be reached for immediate comment.

According to the report, the lecturer was said to have approached the victim and told her she did not score a high enough grade in the qualifying exam to continue her Master's degree.

He is then alleged to have demanded sex and money from the student in return for giving her an improved grade, but was refused by the woman, according to the report.- AFP

The 'C' Word

Posted by Laurence England

Chastity, that is. It's the new taboo.

Not terribly interesting yet still quite interesting piece in The Guardian by someone who for a year decided to go chaste. The comments are a bit on the harsh side. Click here for more. It appears in the 'Life and Style' section of their website. Bemusingly, the abortion debate always appears in the 'Life and Style' section of The Guardian website. I don't know. I understand abortion is an issue of 'Life', but quite what it has to do with 'Style' I have no idea. The main thrust, ahem, of the article appears to be that the lady concerned was fed up with getting plenty of sex but no love, so gave it up for a year to see what would happen. The main result appears to be that in her self she was happier. What is also interesting is the opposition she got from friends about her choice. It is almost as if people find people practising chastity, for whatever reason, very threatening.

August

'Increasingly, my vow has been prompting concern. "Nearly there. Thank heavens - I've been worried about you!" a girlfriend fretted the other day. Everyone agrees that I must be longing for it to be over, and in some ways I am. I have craved sex, but the longer I hold out, the more I want it only in the right circumstances. I almost wish I had longer to go. My vow has become less of a nun's habit than a child's security blanket. It's something to cling to - a reason to say no.

During the course of this year, I have become attuned to other needs: the longing for true intimacy, the desire for a connection capable of enduring across distance and time. I have also let myself go. I've left my legs unwaxed and I haven't bothered to shave my armpits, and beneath it all, my relationship to my body has subtly changed - it feels more my own. In a strange way, it also feels, well, sexier. Possibly for the first time ever, I've no use for the validation of a stranger's appraising gaze. These triumphs make me all the warier of my vow's imminent expiration.'

Should You save Sex for Marriage?

11 Known Facts About Premarital Sex

A commentary by Daniel Macaraeg Should you save sex for marriage? Many teens and young adults are torn between strong arguments for it and against it. Some years ago, as I formed and solidified my own beliefs and convictions about this subject, I stumbled upon a book titled Sex, Love, or Infatuation: How Can I Really Know? by Dr. Ray E. Short, professor emeritus of sociology at the University of Wisconsin in Platteville. Dr. Short was a speaker who was popular to college students and school assemblies. Although it was originally published in the 1960s, I think you would still find this book encouraging and enlightening. He titled chapter 10: "To Be or Not to Be—A Virgin." According to Dr. Short, science had established 11 facts—backed up by solid research—regarding the probable effect of premarital sex on your future marriage: FACT 1: Premarital sex tends to break up couples. FACT 2: Many men and women do not want to marry a person who has had intercourse with someone else. FACT 3: Those who have premarital sex tend to have less happy marriages. FACT 4: Those who have premarital sex are more likely to have their marriage end in divorce. FACT 5: Persons and couples who have had premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs as well. FACT 6: Having premarital sex may fool you into marrying a person who is not right for you. FACT 7: Persons and couples with premarital sex experience tend to achieve sexual satisfaction sooner after they are married. However… FACT 8: They are likely to be less satisfied overall with their sex life during marriage. FACT 9: Poor premarital sexual habits can be carried over to spoil sex in marriage. FACT 10: Guilt may push a couple into a bad marriage. FACT 11: Premarital sex robs a couple of "sexual cement." Facts are still facts. My point is simply this: Premarital sex just isn't smart.There are more disadvantages to premarital sex than what society leads us to believe. Dr. Short doesn't preach or moralize, but his conclusions clearly confirm the teachings of the One who invented sex in the first place—it was God's idea. In the Bible, He inspired the writing of these three powerful verses [among many]: "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous" (Hebrews 13:4, English Standard Version, emphasis added throughout). "He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself. He will get wounds and dishonor, and his disgrace will not be wiped away" (Proverbs 6:32-33, ESV). "Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his [or her] own body" (1 Corinthians 6:18, ESV). Aside from the obvious risks of STDs (including AIDS) and unwanted pregnancies, there are those not-so-obvious elements of suffering, betrayal, heartache, remorse, shame and guilt. How often do they show those things in most portrayals of premarital (and extramarital) sex on TV and in movies today? Those few moments of pleasure are just not worth a lifetime of grief and regret. After getting all the facts, I made the decision some years ago to save sex for my future marriage—a tough and unpopular decision, especially for a guy. But I am convinced I will not regret it. If you think vertically and go God's way, it will be true happiness and pure joy. And you will never regret it! You'll find helpful information on saving sex and preparing for a wonderful marriage in the free booklet Marriage and Family: The Missing Dimension.VT About the Author About the author Daniel Macaraeg is the assistant office manager of the United Church of God in the Philippines. He lives in Davao City.